I love helping couples explore their sexual fantasies in healthy, honest, safe ways. Being invited to be intimate with a couple, as long as both partners are informed and eager, is something I find highly erotic. I am honored to help both individuals explore their sexuality, their adventurousness, their fantasies, and the special bond they share–which will hopefully be even more sexually charged after I’ve left. I love knowing that the excitement continues long after I’m gone–or so I’ve been told by couples I’ve seen in the past. And I think that’s the case because I prioritize pre-date communication and planning. Anytime a couple adds a third party to the mix, it’s a delicate situation, and I understand and respect that. That’s why I think it’s good to discuss expectations and boundaries beforehand.
A reader sent a question in the other day dealing with the topic of the escort/client relationship and how to deal with any inconvenient “feelings” that may develop.
This is a continuation of my responses to the long list of questions sent to me by a young newbie. Today, I’m going to answer three questions on the topic of sexual experience (or lack thereof), and the role of a sex worker meeting with a sexually inexperienced client. Who makes the first move? I […]
About a month ago, I received the following email: Hello Annie, I have a few questions about setting up a date for the first time and other info.The date is not with you but in general for other companions. I stumbled upon your blog and found it fascinating. I really love your writing style. I […]
As a sex worker and an activist, I often run into prohibitionists who are absolutely married to the idea that no woman would ever choose to engage in full service sex work, and that any woman who does engage in it is being exploited by a man–be it her “pimp” or her “john” (yes, they use those words, even though those words aren’t really in widespread use among sex workers themselves). They see work as inherently exploitative to women, and they see women as victims in need of rescue. I refuse to call these people feminists–anyone who insists on infantilizing women and denying them agency is not a feminist. Anyone who refuses to help women by working to secure labor rights for all workers is not a feminist. Anyone who advocates police brutality against and confinement of poverty-stricken women so that they can be “reeducated” and “rehabilitated” into sweatshop workers is. not. a. fucking. feminist.
Good sex can include a multitude of various activities: cunnilingus, fellatio, fingering, mutual masturbation, anal play, kissing, massage, breast worship, etc. And those activities don’t always happen before intercourse.
I recently had a conversation with a friend about which sex toys we enjoy most, and which we enjoy least; which sex toys our friends say they enjoy most and least; which sex toys our lovers enjoy most and least; and which sex toys our clients seem to enjoy most and least. The conversation was quite the intellectual exchange.
Escort screening & verification can seem weird and invasive to newbies. Remember that escort screening is important for safety and discretion reasons. Escorts want to be discreet. Rest assured that’s our top priority. But it’s not our only top priority–we also want to be safe. Screening keeps us safe. The “screening processes” we use can seem really weird and invasive to a newbie, especially since Hollywood and the media like to portray escorts as women who have sex indiscriminately with complete strangers for a few bucks, and do whatever the “customer” wants, whenever and however he wants to, without knowing a thing about him (or caring!). Here’s the understatement of the century: that’s not really accurate.
B – Bodacious (tatas)
C – Captivating
D – Deluxe
DD – Double Deluxe
E – Exceptional
F – Fffffffffffffffffffffff…those are impressive
G – Gifted
H – Hallelujah
The US is falling behind, y’all. And by “falling behind,” I mean “is stuck in the freakin’ Dark Ages.” I’m not talking about education, or healthcare, or poverty, or any of the usual suspects. I’m talking about the laws that affect sex workers. Just the other day I learned that a reporter for the New […]
Hello Lovelies! I’m sorry to say I will not be scheduling any appointments until mid-November, as I’ve recently had minor surgery, and I want to make sure I’m 100% before I give 100%. So, for those of you who I’m scheduled to see soon–we’re still on! And for those of you who were thinking of […]
A certain “Admirer” was requesting new pics, so I took one last night before bed and posted it to Twitter… Bedtime ;) pic.twitter.com/gnxSKKpZcq — Annie Calhoun (@NOLACourtesan) September 18, 2013 Yes, I tagged this post with the word “Sex” because…well…sometimes, it only takes one to tango ;) So, dear readers, ask and you shall receive. […]
Because I’m so freaking tired of hearing ignorant, misogynistic jokes about women who enjoy sex regularly, and/or mothers (who have had vaginal births) having “worn out” or “loose” vaginas, allow me to present, for your reading pleasure:
Yesterday at the gym, I pulled out my trusty New Yorker, turned immediately to the short fiction for this week, and began reading Tessa Hadley’s short story “Valentine.” I really enjoyed it–so much so that I ended up losing track of time and putting in an extra-long workout, and then I went home and read […]
Tis the season…for Christmas and my birthday. I think I’m going to have to splurge and get this entire set. I want the corset, the skirt and garter combo (!!!!), the stockings, the bra…wow. Just…yeah. Wow. Is it wrong that I’m turned on just THINKING about wearing this? Ummmmm… I’m not even exaggerating, yall. Wow.
My friend just sent me this link, and it had me cracking up. I hadn’t thought about Cosmopolitan magazine in a LONG time, and I had forgotten how downright ludicrous (or should I say lewd-icrous? har de har har) their sex tips are. And that makes up like half of every issue of the magazine!!! […]