**This is Part 2 of a three-part series explaining some of the most common screening methods escorts, providers, and other adult entertainers use to ensure safety and discretion with clients.**
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My Screening Practices Explained, Part 1: Just Google Me, Baby!
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My Screening Practices Explained, Part 2: P411, Date-Check, TER, & References
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My Screening Practices Explained, Part 3: Scheduling a Date with an Escort – On Providing References
(continued from My Screening Practices Explained, Part 1: Just Google Me, Baby!)
Soooo…
Screening Sites
In addition to the identity verification system I outlined in Part 1, I do, like many other providers, accept provider references and use P411 as part of my screening process, but I no longer accept Date-Check.
P411 (or Preferred 411, if you want to be fancy and call it by its full name) is a site where clients network with providers. Basically, providers vouch for clients.
This is how it works: A provider meets with a client, and then she reports back to the site regarding whether the client is safe to meet with or not. If she feels that he was a gentleman, she will indicate that. This is called an “Okay.” If she felt that her safety was jeopardized by meeting with him, she will report him. The next time he decides to meet with a provider, she can check the “Okays” he has been given, and then contact those providers for further details. Using this system, providers can quickly and easily vet potential clients based on how other providers felt after sessions with him.
Date-Check is similar, just uglier and clunkier. Seriously, it looks like they jumped into a time machine, traveled back to 1998, and asked a 7-year-old with a drug problem to design that website. It’s a mess. Also, the admins/owners of that site are…not the brightest of the bunch. For example, at the moment they have me listed as “retired.” Why? Because I had the gall to tell them that, if they were going require me to pay them for access to their site (a site whose main revenue comes from the traffic and paid subscriptions of clients who are searching for escorts), then they needed to pay me for access to my photos and content. You see, they elected to keep my photos, content, contact info on their site after notifying me that my account was no longer free. I’m not OK with a company using my material to pull traffic to their site and giving me nothing in return, so I asked them to restore my account or remove my profile. Somehow, they understood that as, “I’m quitting the business.” Um, no.
There are several other websites similar to these. Different sites are more popular in different locations. For example, Room Service 2000 (RoomService2000.com) is popular in Chicago. P411 is probably the most widely used in New Orleans.
Provider References
I do ask for references from clients (click here for a detailed explanation of how that works). No, this doesn’t mean I want to hear from your thesis director or your boss. This means I would like to personally contact (through email or phone) two or three providers you’ve met with. I’ll talk to that provider, and I’ll ask her a few questions that will (hopefully) let me know I will be safe and comfortable in the client’s presence, and that we will be compatible.
TER Whitelist – The Erotic Review Client Whitelist
As you may have realized, sites like P411 and Date-Check basically work on the idea of provider references, in that they allow me to contact providers who can vouch for you without you having to supply the contact information for those providers. The TER Whitelist (The Erotic Review – theeroticreview.com) is similar, but less extensive. If a member of TER meets with a provider who is also a member and he is very generous, gentlemanly, and respectful, and they have a very, very good time, she can “whitelist” him. This means that she highly recommends him to other escorts. If you are a member of TER and you have been whitelisted, please let me know!
Other boards, sites, etc.
Sometimes gentlemen provide their board handles (the usernames they use when posting on discussion sites, review sites, etc.) when they contact me. ECCIE.net is popular in New Orleans, TER is popular nationwide, and from what I understand, others were popular in the past. I do appreciate it when prospective clients provide this info, but a board handle alone is not enough to satisfy my screening requirements.
Tips
Save yourself some time and provide screening information (whichever applies to you) when you contact me. I will ignore emails that say simply “r u free tonite – sent from my iphone.” (Answer: No. I know nothing about you, I don’t meet with clients indiscriminately, and I need a little more notice than that–I have a life, a job, boring daily obligations, and friends I’m not willing to blow off for someone who doesn’t bother to glance through my website, where my booking and screening practices are pretty clearly outlined.).
Would like to meet you
Likewise! Feel free to contact me here or at nolacourtesan@gmail.com to set up a date. I’ll be looking forward to hearing from you…
If I’m new to this hobby how do I get a reference?
Hi Sean,
If you’re brand new to the hobby, you (obviously) can’t supply provider references. Most girls use employment verification as a screening method for newbies. Check out this post for more info: My Screening Practices Explained – Part 1: Just Google Me, Baby! Screening through Employment Verification
Hey Hon,
I sent you an email about the Nutella. Let me know sweety. Thanks
I answered it; check your email.
Patience is a virtue. You’ve got to give a lady more than a few minutes to respond to an email. I promise it won’t kill you to wait a few hours to hear that I only enjoy Nutella on Wednesdays.
I realize this is an old thread. My question is this. Let’s say someone works at a jail. Not a cop, but has always wanted to hire an escort. It seems unlikely p411 or anything like that would accept me.
First, sorry I didn’t reply to this comment sooner; I just noticed it.
As for working in a jail (or even being a cop for that matter), the job doesn’t necessarily preclude a visit with a reputable escort, but I’m not sure what qualities might disqualify you from participation on the various screening sites. In your case, I would suggest simple ID/employer verification: My Screening Practices Explained – Part 1: Just Google Me, Baby! Screening through Employment Verification.
Hello Annie,
I have a few questions about setting up a date for the first time and other info.The date is not with you but in general for other companions. I stumbled upon your blog and found it fascinating. I really love your writing style. I read all three of your verification parts. You have alot of info on your blog so I don’t know if you have talked about this info or not. I wanted to know as an absolute newbie how do I make a date with a companion either from Backpage to P411. From the blog I see you are busy and your time is valuable, however I am not looking for a synopsis but an in depth explanation. So let me clarify on my question.
First, I wanted to know the etiquette of talking to a companion on the phone.
How do introduce myself?
What can I ask and what can’t I ask?
How do I ask about making an appointment?
How do I ask about the donation amount and how they want to receive it?
How do I ask where to meet whether in call or out?
How do I know if it is a cop on the other end?
How do I ask for them to verify me as I have no references?
(I have read your three verification posts and I had joined P411. I have had my employment verified and have a year subscription. I want to know how to bring it up and respond when they ask about my references.)
My next question is on etiquette with the same questions but on email or P411 appointment requests.
My third question is I live in Springfield Missouri and majority ads are on Backpage with out any reviews how do I find out if they are legit or not?( Also any other places I should look for companions other than T.E.R, E.C.C.I.E, and the monkey one in my area.)
My fourth question is many of the companions are much older than I am but once they hear my age they want nothing to do with me. How do I get my foot through the door with my age. I am 20 Years old and a big guy. I know my age is young but I go to school and work for a living so I dont have time for relationships. Even though my weight has been a big factor in my dating scene. I still want to experience things while I try to lose my weight. Which is a long journey from now. I am very mature for my age. I am a well mannered person. I keep myself well groomed and clean as is physically possible. As a guy who ways 240lbs image and cleanliness means more than anything possible.
My fifth question is if I do finally hit gold. What is the etiquette on the date:
What should I wear?
I haven’t shaved “down there” for a while, but what is the formality. Trim or bare?
What do I say when I meet them?
If it’s incall where and how do I place the money? Same for outcall?
What do I talk about and don’t?
How do I find out about what they can or don’t do without incriminating myself or sounding like an idiot?
How do I know if they are a cop, is there certain things they say that a companion would never?
Who makes the first move and I am a shy person in intimate matters. I have the deed once and that was when I was not sober. I barely remember it. To me that doesn’t really count as an experience. So how do I let them know about my level of expertise in general.
My whole goal in finding a companion is not just for my own enjoyment but rather a learning experience for future non companion partners. I want to learn what makes a woman tick. How to please them and give them the pleasure that I can get. How do I let a companion know that I want to learn the ins and outs of pleasing a woman in bed. You know from beginning to end. I am weak in the “length” and physique department so I need some other things in the Arsenal until I fix the physique part lol.
Many guys look at companions as their brute right and for their pleasure. But, I literally want to enjoy and learn things on a woman that you could not learn without being in a relationship. Let me know if you think my views on this is achievable and realistic. I have been scouring the Internet but it’s mostly Alpha Males and they’re Triumphs. Your blog is something I have been looking for. A chance of getting info from not a client side but by the companion side.
This is everything that my mind has been searching for on this subject but I have gotten no where. I know I wrote a shit ton lol. It would mean a lot if you helped me. If you need something in return let me know. I am hopeful of your response.
P.S. I know this email is fake. That is to make sure no one stumbles on this email message also please excuse any grammatically and punctuational errors as I have typed and formatted this on my phone. I’m not as good at writing as you are!
Thank You
Looking for TER or Preferred411 clients rockymountainsky@hotmail.com