Sh*t People Say to Sex Workers

I love this video by Scarlet Alliance SO MUCH, and it cracks me up every time I watch it.

(By the way: the term “Sex Worker” refers to any individual working in the sex industry whose job is to provide an erotic experience for the client. The word is used for escorts, professional companions, travel companions, massage parlor workers, porn actors and actresses, strippers, lap dancers, peep-show performers, and even phone sex operators. I am an escort and a professional companion; therefore, I am a sex worker.)

Sh*t They Say to Sex Workers

The ones I hear the most often:

“So, what’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever done?”

Um…well, I ate balut once…does that count?  Ohhhhhhh!  You mean in the bedroom!  Yeah, I’ve never eaten balut there.

“(Blah blah blah blah blah blah) easy money (blah blah blah blah blah) not a real job (blah blah blah blah blah)”

Well, if it’s such “easy money,” why aren’t you doing it?  Ah.  I see.

Basically, you don’t get to say this about any job unless you’ve done it.

“You can’t do that and call yourself a Feminist.” (or, as I heard it, “No self-respecting Feminist would ever do that.”)

Oh really?  Because last I checked, feminism was about fighting for and defending equal rights for women.  I’m doing that. So if I like, I can call myself a Feminist, and so can any other escort. The two are not mutually exclusive.

“What about all those sex slaves?”

It’s a huge, horrific problem.  I do not support slavery in any way, shape, or form.

But what does this have to do with who I’m spending time with and why?

“I’m just so worried about you.”

Well, that’s natural.  People fear what they do not understand, and you do not understand what I’m doing.  But if you know me well, you know that I have a good head on my shoulders.  Keep that in mind.  I’m willing to discuss your worries if you  approach me with respect and a willingness to listen, and leave your preconceived notions at the door.  Be open and honest with me, and I’ll be open and honest with you.  Perhaps, once you have a greater understanding of what I do, you won’t need to fear it anymore.