Escort Advice: Should Escorts Pay for Access to ‘Bad Client Lists’ Like National Blacklist?

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Today I’m answering a question from a newbie escort. She’s just starting out and, understandably, she’s researching how to stay safe. “Bad client lists” are one of the resources available to escorts, though their usefulness is widely varied depending on the type of list, whether it’s maintained by a for-profit business or by volunteers associated […]

Can you trust an escort who doesn’t allow reviews? Client Questions

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New question today! It’s a good one, too. I talk a lot about client screening, but it’s been a while since I’ve written on the topic of how to figure out if an escort is legit. Dear Annie, I found an escort on Eros.com. She has her own website but refuses reviews (which I understand […]

Calling the Client’s Workplace, Escort Earnings: Questions from a would-be escort

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Yay, new question!! Well, semi-new, because it came in like 2 weeks ago and I’m just now getting to it. This one’s a little different from most of the others–today I’m going to answer a couple questions not from a client, but from a woman who is considering working as an escort in New Orleans. […]

Are You Experienced? Escorts as Teachers of Titillation, Clients as Students of Sensuality

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This is a continuation of my responses to the long list of questions sent to me by a young newbie. Today, I’m going to answer three questions on the topic of sexual experience (or lack thereof), and the role of a sex worker meeting with a sexually inexperienced client. Who makes the first move? I […]

How to Tell if an Escort is a Cop, How Not to Incriminate Yourself, What to Say

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Today, I’m going to address a couple questions that EVERYONE asks at some point when they first decide to start dating escorts, or some might say, when they first “enter the “hobby” (I hate that term for it, but ya know…when in Rome…). Guys usually ask how they can tell if an escort is an undercover police officer, or if she’s working with law enforcement in some other capacity. Strangely enough, that’s one of the questions we (escorts) all ask when we first start in the biz. Seems like we have similar fears…

December 17th 2016 International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers

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It’s December 17th, which means it’s International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers. What you don't know about #sexwork is killing #sexworkers. #Stigmakills #dec17 #december17 #AreWeNotWoman #rightsnotrescue pic.twitter.com/TGYq4F0RS4 — PACE Society (@PaceSociety) December 17, 2016 I only have about 18 minutes to finish this blog (and then it’ll be December 18th, which is nothing […]

Open Rant to SexWork Prohibitionists Everywhere

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As a sex worker and an activist, I often run into prohibitionists who are absolutely married to the idea that no woman would ever choose to engage in full service sex work, and that any woman who does engage in it is being exploited by a man–be it her “pimp” or her “john” (yes, they use those words, even though those words aren’t really in widespread use among sex workers themselves). They see work as inherently exploitative to women, and they see women as victims in need of rescue. I refuse to call these people feminists–anyone who insists on infantilizing women and denying them agency is not a feminist. Anyone who refuses to help women by working to secure labor rights for all workers is not a feminist. Anyone who advocates police brutality against and confinement of poverty-stricken women so that they can be “reeducated” and “rehabilitated” into sweatshop workers is. not. a. fucking. feminist.

Today is International Sex Workers’ Rights Day 2015!!

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Did y’all know that March 3rd is International Sex Workers’ Rights Day?! In case you don’t know what the term “sex worker” means, here’s a non-exhaustive list from SWOP-NOLA, the New Orleans chapter of Sex Workers’ Outreach Project: “Escorts, Professional Companions, Service Providers, Strippers, Exotic Dancers, FBSM / Erotic and Sensual Massage Practitioners, Pro-Dommes, Fetish […]

Escort Screening: No Digital Breadcrumbs? Client Advice

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Hey all!  Happy New Year!  Hope 2015 is treating y’all well.  It’s brought some huge changes for little ol’ me.  Some of you know what I’m talking about; some of you don’t.  Don’t worry, I’m fine and nothing terrible has happened.  It’s ultimately a good (actually, awesome and amazing) thing, but it’s going to be […]

Wait, But Why? Escort Screening & Verification 101 for Newbies

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Escort screening & verification can seem weird and invasive to newbies. Remember that escort screening is important for safety and discretion reasons. Escorts want to be discreet. Rest assured that’s our top priority. But it’s not our only top priority–we also want to be safe. Screening keeps us safe. The “screening processes” we use can seem really weird and invasive to a newbie, especially since Hollywood and the media like to portray escorts as women who have sex indiscriminately with complete strangers for a few bucks, and do whatever the “customer” wants, whenever and however he wants to, without knowing a thing about him (or caring!). Here’s the understatement of the century: that’s not really accurate.

Pick up the pace, America.

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The US is falling behind, y’all. And by “falling behind,” I mean “is stuck in the freakin’ Dark Ages.” I’m not talking about education, or healthcare, or poverty, or any of the usual suspects. I’m talking about the laws that affect sex workers. Just the other day I learned that a reporter for the New […]